also, if an abuse survivor wants to work on their relationship with the abuser because the abuser realised they were being a terrible person & has actually taken steps to change, I think it’s in poor taste to shut that option down. It should be just as valid a choice as leaving/never speaking to their abuser again, even if it might make other people uncomfortable, because may think that is what is best for their situation.

For example, if Shouto decided he never wanted to speak to his father ever again I would 100% support that. But if Katsuki decided to apologise and try to make amends, I would 100% support Izuku if he thinks being friends with Katsuki again is going to make him happy, provided Katsuki goes through the right steps and makes noticeable changes in behaviour. Katsuki’s already made a lot of progress in the series thus far.

Same here and I agree with you entirely.

I do wanna say some ktdk shippers do be pushin’ it though to warrant frustration. Like I’m a kind of person who’s a lot more tolerable about things and I’m okay with the fact im gonna see things that make me uncomfortable/upset without really going off the walls about it (especially on the internet were you know… whatever’ll come up at anytime) so I don’t necessarily care but there are people who make comments about Katsuki’s behavior in an approving light or people who exaggerate his behavior and make it worst so I think I get a mutual frustration when people act like fans are wrong for disliking the ship as much as the frustration I get with people who act like there isn’t a plot of redemption being built up and attacking people’s character for shipping the two.

I do strongly believe in the idea that people are capable of growth and change, and while I don’t believe in “returning” to abusers on a more personal standpoint I do understand that mindset can be very closed minded and that people can become better and improve relationships if a genuine attempt is made and its done properly.

With BNHA I think their ways of handling the characters is very interesting and it’s incredibly self-aware. You’re not supposed to like Katsuki in the beginning, you have All Might + Izuku’s the pinnacles of all that are good constantly telling him things that the reader themselves are already aware Katsuki needs to fix about himself, but there’s still some sort of block (which we’re only just now recently seeing is about to sort of collapse).

Horikoshi has already promised through All Might that Katsuki and Izuku’s relationship is going to undergo a slow healing. There are stories that romanticize abuse and bad situations + relationships but here we are with two characters who clearly are experiencing their own conflict and the story knows it’s awful in every way possible currently, yet there’s still promise for something better to come about. It’s very pulling, and it makes you interested – at least it makes me interested – in how that can all go and be handled. 

With Shouto we saw how even though his mother attacked him and damaged him permanently, he was eventually able to confront her with a new understanding and they reconciled. I don’t think anyone would argue Todoroki and his mother’s relationship is toxic even though she left a permanent mark on not only his face, but everything that he ended up thinking he was up until the end of the Sports Festival Arc. I trust Horikoshi’s handling of these characters and the relationships so I’m hopeful and look forward to it.

All I wish is people could respect one another and not step on each other’s toes too much. The quick judgement about one another about based on what they ship is completely ridiculous, especially if you don’t even attempt to understand it first.